I lost my virginity to a man with a huge penis. Watching porn made me uncomfortable so I always just read erotica. I could barely open my jaw far enough to the get the thing in my mouth. We could only have sex in missionary position because everything else hurt so badly. I was not particularly impressed with intercourse or giving oral, for that matter. The rest of my relationships have been with men with normal size penises.
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Labia stretching: the awful reason some women are having their labia elongated
If you're going to have anal sex , then you need to use lube specifically designed for anal sex. That's because the vagina, unlike the anus, doesn't produce natural lubricants during intercourse. Typically for anal sex involving a penis as opposed to, say, pegging , you want to use thicker lube that doesn't require constant reapplication, explains Alicia Sinclair, founder of sex toy brand b-Vibe. Most people find that they prefer a thicker lubricant for anal play because it gives some extra cushion to protect delicate body parts. A warning about silicone-based lubes: You can't use 'em on sex toys.
A speculum Latin for "mirror"; plural specula or speculums , is a medical tool for investigating body orifices , with a form dependent on the orifice for which it is designed. In old texts, the speculum may also be referred to as a diopter or dioptra. Vaginal and anal specula were used by the ancient Greeks and Romans ,  and speculum artifacts have been found in Pompeii. Marion Sims , consists of a hollow cylinder with a rounded end that is divided into two hinged parts, somewhat like the beak of a duck. This speculum is inserted into the vagina to dilate it for examination of the vagina and cervix.
Good news: Anal sex is becoming less and less taboo. Anal sex provides a different kind of fullness and can be really, truly intimate especially if it's a first for both of you. Another major perk? Some women even experience full-on anal orgasms. With the right positions and a few helpful pointers, you could be one of them.